Earlier this week I was struck by something I heard a popular Black actor mention on a Christian TV program. The actor who played Uncle Phil on "Fresh Prince" was fondly recalling the wonderful upbringing given him by his mom, a single parent. He made the point that though Black families have their share of struggles, historically they have had strong family bonds despite tough circumstances. As an example, he shared how many of the 4 million freed slaves diligently searched for their families after Emancipation. Instantly my mind began to imagine what it must have been like for a husband, separated from his wife who was sold to another master in another place, to search for his beloved upon gaining freedom. I began to recall ads I'd seen that freed African Americans had placed to locate their children, their parents, and so on, with whom they'd lost contact due to the evils of slavery.
Personally, I cannot imagine the pain of separation, followed by the desperation of a search. The closest I could come to figuring out what this experience must've been like is thinking about what adopted adult children do to locate their birth parents. But even that tough situation does not scratch the surface of what my ancestors must have felt....
Now, I am certainly not one to blame another person for the woes of myself or my people. In fact, I think due to my upbringing, I err too much on the 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' mentality. However, I cannot help but wonder if any of the problems that plague black families today are the residuals of our slavery past that ripped apart our family structures.
I am also filled with pride for my people, who managed, by God's grace, to survive such a holocaust as slavery. It is a testament to God's goodness that as a people, we were not completely wiped out physically, socially, emotionally, or spiritually.
The hope of those freed Blacks searching for their loved ones saddens me but also inspires me...
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Monday, August 06, 2007
Sunday, July 01, 2007
Supremacy of Christ in Post modern Culture
Eh, yo, check out the link below for some awesome preaching on the supremacy of Christ in a postmodern culture. It is from John Piper's national pastors' conference (last year). Very accurately breaks down the challenge for today's ministers (and, heck, today's Christians) in the face of postmodern influences on the Church.
http://www.desiringgod.org/ResourceLibrary/ConferenceMessages/ByDate/1833_The_Supremacy_of_Christ_and_the_Church_in_a_Postmodern_World/
http://www.desiringgod.org/ResourceLibrary/ConferenceMessages/ByDate/1833_The_Supremacy_of_Christ_and_the_Church_in_a_Postmodern_World/
What I'm Reading Now
Right now I'm reading The Rosenwald Schools of the American South, by Mary S. Hoffschwelle, 2006. Great look at the partnership between Booker T. Washington and Julius Rosenwald (who was responsible for Sears becoming a business success) to build over 5,000 schools for African-Americans at the turn of the century. Interesting look at the various forces at play in these ventures, from white philanthropists to Black local organizers to white officials in city and state education depts.
What was striking to me were the similarities bet. education reform in the early 1900s and education reform today: everything from the still unequal education that Blacks receive to the partnerships that have formed between school districts and philanthropists from the world of business to create new schools that will improve the quality of education for the poor in our cities. Another similarity was the complex dynamics between the vision and design of the funders and that of the community and the local leaders.
Some contrasts were evident as well, the most prominent being the lack of self help emphasis. Both in terms of the community mindset and in terms of the funders' requirements, what I found missing was the serious community accountability and involvement for the success of the schools being built. BTW and Rosenwald required communities to raise a certain amount of money before their donations even kicked in. In addition, they required measurable community support because they knew the success of the schools built would be dependent upon the involvement of the communities in which they were placed. I think today our philosophies about the ability of the poor to help themselves and about the political correctness of demanding accountability have hurt us tremendously. A final contrast is that the emphasis of the Rosenwald schools was on the physical plant, not on teacher training, curriculum, or other aspects of school reform that we are familiar with today.
Well, I am not yet finished with the book (about half way through), but I look forward to learning more about the process of getting over 5,000 schools built in about twenty, twenty five years, and about their legacy today. And my thinking is being sparked around what I can glean from BTW and Rosenwald's successes and challenges.
What's sad, though, is that almost one hundred years later, America is still trying to solve the problem of unequal education for its poor Black citizens....
What was striking to me were the similarities bet. education reform in the early 1900s and education reform today: everything from the still unequal education that Blacks receive to the partnerships that have formed between school districts and philanthropists from the world of business to create new schools that will improve the quality of education for the poor in our cities. Another similarity was the complex dynamics between the vision and design of the funders and that of the community and the local leaders.
Some contrasts were evident as well, the most prominent being the lack of self help emphasis. Both in terms of the community mindset and in terms of the funders' requirements, what I found missing was the serious community accountability and involvement for the success of the schools being built. BTW and Rosenwald required communities to raise a certain amount of money before their donations even kicked in. In addition, they required measurable community support because they knew the success of the schools built would be dependent upon the involvement of the communities in which they were placed. I think today our philosophies about the ability of the poor to help themselves and about the political correctness of demanding accountability have hurt us tremendously. A final contrast is that the emphasis of the Rosenwald schools was on the physical plant, not on teacher training, curriculum, or other aspects of school reform that we are familiar with today.
Well, I am not yet finished with the book (about half way through), but I look forward to learning more about the process of getting over 5,000 schools built in about twenty, twenty five years, and about their legacy today. And my thinking is being sparked around what I can glean from BTW and Rosenwald's successes and challenges.
What's sad, though, is that almost one hundred years later, America is still trying to solve the problem of unequal education for its poor Black citizens....
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
PRAISES
All praises due to the God of the Universe, the Most High God. Today while sitting in a great assessment/data workshop, a call came in on my cell phone. It was from Creative Mobility (aka The Bike Rack) in St. Charles, IL, the place I went to to customize TT's bike. I've been wanting to get Tamara an adaptive bike for quite a few years now (over four), mainly because TT loves doing three things: eating, swimming, and bike riding. I eat too much as is, I'm not getting into a bathing suit until I shed about a hunnerd pounds (not to mention that I can't swim to save my life), so that left bike riding. Though I can't ride a bike either, I can walk alongside T on her bike and get exercise while she enjoys herself.
Anyway, a bike adapted for TT's special needs costs $3,300. I'd all but given up hope on funding such a bike (after years of petitioning places for scholarships), when my sister J encouraged me to keep hope alive. I listened, and rec'd a $1,000 grant back in January or so. I combined that with my own $500, plus another 500 from J. I intended to use my income tax money for the rest, so I put a down payment at Creative Mobility. Unfortunately, for the first time since I've been paying taxes, I ended up owing Uncle Sam rather than getting a refund. I had to make that dreadful call to the bike shop telling them I wouldn't have their money when they'd have the bike (around March), and asking them to give me a couple of months to save up. Well, it's been almost two months and I haven't saved a penny. And then I get a call today...
The owner and his sister knew my situation, and they had a donor who recently asked to whom they could give a donation for a bike. The two folks thought of TT, and as of Saturday, T will have her new bike. Man, I was blown away by God's sovereignty and generosity. My little one will finally have a bike at home to enjoy on weeknights and weekends. We can finally do something enjoyable together.
Anyway, a bike adapted for TT's special needs costs $3,300. I'd all but given up hope on funding such a bike (after years of petitioning places for scholarships), when my sister J encouraged me to keep hope alive. I listened, and rec'd a $1,000 grant back in January or so. I combined that with my own $500, plus another 500 from J. I intended to use my income tax money for the rest, so I put a down payment at Creative Mobility. Unfortunately, for the first time since I've been paying taxes, I ended up owing Uncle Sam rather than getting a refund. I had to make that dreadful call to the bike shop telling them I wouldn't have their money when they'd have the bike (around March), and asking them to give me a couple of months to save up. Well, it's been almost two months and I haven't saved a penny. And then I get a call today...
The owner and his sister knew my situation, and they had a donor who recently asked to whom they could give a donation for a bike. The two folks thought of TT, and as of Saturday, T will have her new bike. Man, I was blown away by God's sovereignty and generosity. My little one will finally have a bike at home to enjoy on weeknights and weekends. We can finally do something enjoyable together.
Saturday, June 16, 2007
Excitement
Okay, so it is 12:40am (guess it's Saturday) and I am up revamping the tentative daily staff schedule to include two weekdays of extended day for staff development. Wow! My excitement about the start of the school year's really starting to build. And it's a good thing, too, because I have tons of work to do, many miles to go, before I sleep.
I am 'stoked' as they say about having our families come together and create our core values, and having our staff do the same and create our mission statement. I am so looking forward to the team building part of getting to know staff and finding out what their backgrounds and talents are, and where I need to bring them greater support. Many of my families have called me asking when we are meeting next and declaring their support and how excited they are as well. I know this is the honeymoon stage, but it's good to have a nice honeymoon....
I love the time spent with my AP because we are so much on the same page. I worry about being an experienced enough leader for her. I guess all I can do is be myself and lead the way I would want people to do me. And pray like young Solomon did for God's wisdom to lead the people entrusted to me. I love the teachers I have on board as well. I feel they complement each other well, they are good teachers (sound), and they have a love for students and families and are open to growing. I can't wait until next year when we have residents; I feel having teachers in training will add to the excitement and raise the bar of professionalism, though I think this group of staff are already professionals in every sense of the word.
Again, I know our flaws (mine included) will begin to show the more we are around each other, and I know that we will have our conflicts and our ups and downs, but I am really looking forward to this new school start. I believe the people, systems, structures, and support we have in place are all designed to bring to bear a tremendous PUSH for our students to succeed. I know as Sims puts it all the time, this thing is a marathon and not a sprint, but I believe we can look forward to some real gains this school year in our students HOLISTICALLY.
I'm gonna end with this Scripture from the Old Testament. I've been thinking about it a lot lately over the past two weeks. It was the basis for my personal mission statement when I was going through my stuff at Circle. I barely revisited it last year during my principal internship, but now it is resurrecting in my thoughts (coming back up in my spirit, as my charismatic, Pentecostal friends would say.) Here goes...
"Now these are the last words of David. David the son of Jesse declares, the man who was raised on high declares, the anointed of the God of Jacob, and the sweet psalmist of Israel:
The Spirit of the LORD spoke by me, and His word was on my tongue. The God of Israel said, the Rock of Israel spoke to me,
He who rules over men righteously, who rules in the fear of God, is as the light of the morning when the sun rises, a morning without clouds, when the tender grass springs out of the earth, through sunshine after rain.
Truly is not my house so with God? For He has made an everlasting covenant with me, ordered in all things, and secured; for all my salvation and all my desire, will He not indeed make it grow?"
--II Samuel 23:1 to 5
This passage is followed by a touching story of David's mighty men (the same ragamuffin crew that earlier in his leadership were in distress, in debt, and discontented - see I Samuel 22:1-2). At the end of his career, David had garnered such loyalty from his crew that when he was in the midst of battle, craving water from his city of Bethlehem, his men risked their lives to push through enemy lines and retrieve water for David from a well in his hometown. Even more poignant was David's response to these men's loyalty and care: David poured the water on the ground as an offering to God, refusing to drink the precious water for which his comrades risked their lives. What mutual care and protection! I aspire to be the kind of leader who inspires such motivated action and loyalty and care from those I lead.
Hence, my personal mission statement. Wanna hear it, here it go....
I want to live with God's glory* as the controlling desire of my heart.
I want to fully and mutually engage with loved ones (face to face/heart to heart), discovering what matters to them and working towards what's good for them.
I want to work with and manage people as God's agent, doing the best for them and inspiring the best from them.
I want to have a redeeming impact on others, helping to cultivate what God has placed in them.
*to express God's supreme worth and glorious nature and deeds to others, by word and deed
I am 'stoked' as they say about having our families come together and create our core values, and having our staff do the same and create our mission statement. I am so looking forward to the team building part of getting to know staff and finding out what their backgrounds and talents are, and where I need to bring them greater support. Many of my families have called me asking when we are meeting next and declaring their support and how excited they are as well. I know this is the honeymoon stage, but it's good to have a nice honeymoon....
I love the time spent with my AP because we are so much on the same page. I worry about being an experienced enough leader for her. I guess all I can do is be myself and lead the way I would want people to do me. And pray like young Solomon did for God's wisdom to lead the people entrusted to me. I love the teachers I have on board as well. I feel they complement each other well, they are good teachers (sound), and they have a love for students and families and are open to growing. I can't wait until next year when we have residents; I feel having teachers in training will add to the excitement and raise the bar of professionalism, though I think this group of staff are already professionals in every sense of the word.
Again, I know our flaws (mine included) will begin to show the more we are around each other, and I know that we will have our conflicts and our ups and downs, but I am really looking forward to this new school start. I believe the people, systems, structures, and support we have in place are all designed to bring to bear a tremendous PUSH for our students to succeed. I know as Sims puts it all the time, this thing is a marathon and not a sprint, but I believe we can look forward to some real gains this school year in our students HOLISTICALLY.
I'm gonna end with this Scripture from the Old Testament. I've been thinking about it a lot lately over the past two weeks. It was the basis for my personal mission statement when I was going through my stuff at Circle. I barely revisited it last year during my principal internship, but now it is resurrecting in my thoughts (coming back up in my spirit, as my charismatic, Pentecostal friends would say.) Here goes...
"Now these are the last words of David. David the son of Jesse declares, the man who was raised on high declares, the anointed of the God of Jacob, and the sweet psalmist of Israel:
The Spirit of the LORD spoke by me, and His word was on my tongue. The God of Israel said, the Rock of Israel spoke to me,
He who rules over men righteously, who rules in the fear of God, is as the light of the morning when the sun rises, a morning without clouds, when the tender grass springs out of the earth, through sunshine after rain.
Truly is not my house so with God? For He has made an everlasting covenant with me, ordered in all things, and secured; for all my salvation and all my desire, will He not indeed make it grow?"
--II Samuel 23:1 to 5
This passage is followed by a touching story of David's mighty men (the same ragamuffin crew that earlier in his leadership were in distress, in debt, and discontented - see I Samuel 22:1-2). At the end of his career, David had garnered such loyalty from his crew that when he was in the midst of battle, craving water from his city of Bethlehem, his men risked their lives to push through enemy lines and retrieve water for David from a well in his hometown. Even more poignant was David's response to these men's loyalty and care: David poured the water on the ground as an offering to God, refusing to drink the precious water for which his comrades risked their lives. What mutual care and protection! I aspire to be the kind of leader who inspires such motivated action and loyalty and care from those I lead.
Hence, my personal mission statement. Wanna hear it, here it go....
I want to live with God's glory* as the controlling desire of my heart.
I want to fully and mutually engage with loved ones (face to face/heart to heart), discovering what matters to them and working towards what's good for them.
I want to work with and manage people as God's agent, doing the best for them and inspiring the best from them.
I want to have a redeeming impact on others, helping to cultivate what God has placed in them.
*to express God's supreme worth and glorious nature and deeds to others, by word and deed
Saturday, June 09, 2007
Akanksha
This week I had the privilege of meeting and talking with Shaheen Mistri, a woman born in Mumbai, India (who lived in 13 countries growing up) who, at age 18, started a center for Indian children who are underserved by their country's public school system. Now about age 29, Shaheen has started over 50 of these centers, which run after school, parallel educational and social programs for children (from those entering school to those graduating from grade 10, their highest grade before two year college). I was struck by the similarities of issues faced by Shaheen and her team that face those of us in urban education in America, as well as a whole host of different conditions that make their job harder in many ways.
Shaheen visited many elementary and high schools during her visit here (AUSL and San Miguel elementary schools, plus quite a few charter middle and high schools, like Noble Street, Young Women's Leadership, and Perspectives). She participated in a roundtable of education leaders (with the likes of New Leaders for New Schools founder John Schnur, San Miguel founder Bro. Ed, Teach for America and IL Network of Charter Schools E.D.s, Joyce Fdn rep, charter school founders, plus principals like myself). I felt really out of my league, and I believe I gleaned just as much from Shaheen's visit than she did. What I took away in terms of inspiration and motivation for the work of providing quality education to traditionally underserved children and youth was invaluable. Observing what obstacles she faces compared to what we face, and yet how much progress she has made over the last decade, encourages me in the start of this new high school.
Here are some details:
India has a private school system that serves the elite (plus a couple of tiers of schooling like Catholic schools and very few public schools serving the wealthy) that function relatively well, but the public system serving the overwhelming majority of the public is challenged in terms of conditions and outcomes. Teacher quality is an issue, since teacher training is weak, teacher pay is low, people pursue teaching when they cannot do anything else so prof. prestige is low, and unions protect teachers (sound familiar?). This situation relegates poor children and families to cycles of poverty in their future since education, which could give them the means to change their social condition, is not as effective as it could be. Also, parents are largely uneducated, though enthusiastic about their children having a future (many volunteer at the centers). So the problems we see in American inner cities are not just American problems; they sound like class and city problems.
What's different than here (but actually similar in some respects) is that the undergrad programs that prepare teachers and the government that certifies them need significant work, plus about 70% of teachers are not even certified by government standards. There is not a single graduate program for principal training, so there is no leadership to recruit, select, and train teachers. Principals tend to be veteran teachers who may or may not have the ability or interest to lead a school, and in some cases the prinicpal might be a leader from another industry (like railway) who has no experience in instruction.
Another issue is facilities. School buildings need a great deal of work and often don't have adequate restrooms. Schools often consist of one or two rooms, and there may be 100 students in a class. Shaheen's organization, which cannot afford better or even separate school facilities, uses schools for free after school lets out (2 to 6pm).
In terms of results, Shaheen's teachers have made great strides comparatively but, like great cultural changers, they are not satisfied because the work is still great. In India, there is primary school (grades 1 to 5), followed by grades 6 to 10, after which you take a major test to determine eligibility for a two year college. Your performance in the two year college decides if you go to the three year college, so kids have a 15 year educational program if they are fortunate. There are teachers in the system who have gone only to grade 5. Only 10% of student make it to grade 10, whereas 65% of students in Shaheen's program attend the two year college. Some have even graduated and returned as teachers in the program, which is really exciting. In addition, other results abound, like the hope children are given for the future, the spirit of volunteerism and service that are instilled in so many of the kids there, and the holistic growth of the students.
In addition to trying to figure out how to recruit and train high quality teachers, Shaheen's group is struggling with how to expand. Whether or not or how much to join govt schools in some way is a question, as well as how to replicate what they are doing without losing the level of quality they have.
Hearing Shaheen share challenges, successes, and the resilience of the Indian children and families was tremendously encouraging, and reminded me of the situation of my African brothers and sisters in their country. I was also deeply saddened and sobered regarding obstacles the poor face everywhere, not just in America. But more than anything, I was emboldened that the work I do here of working to create real futures for urban minority youth through a strong academic and social-emotional foundation is truly needed and a worthwhile goal. It helps to know there are folks doing the same thing in very different cultures.
You can check out Shaheen's organization at akanksha.org. Peace.
Shaheen visited many elementary and high schools during her visit here (AUSL and San Miguel elementary schools, plus quite a few charter middle and high schools, like Noble Street, Young Women's Leadership, and Perspectives). She participated in a roundtable of education leaders (with the likes of New Leaders for New Schools founder John Schnur, San Miguel founder Bro. Ed, Teach for America and IL Network of Charter Schools E.D.s, Joyce Fdn rep, charter school founders, plus principals like myself). I felt really out of my league, and I believe I gleaned just as much from Shaheen's visit than she did. What I took away in terms of inspiration and motivation for the work of providing quality education to traditionally underserved children and youth was invaluable. Observing what obstacles she faces compared to what we face, and yet how much progress she has made over the last decade, encourages me in the start of this new high school.
Here are some details:
India has a private school system that serves the elite (plus a couple of tiers of schooling like Catholic schools and very few public schools serving the wealthy) that function relatively well, but the public system serving the overwhelming majority of the public is challenged in terms of conditions and outcomes. Teacher quality is an issue, since teacher training is weak, teacher pay is low, people pursue teaching when they cannot do anything else so prof. prestige is low, and unions protect teachers (sound familiar?). This situation relegates poor children and families to cycles of poverty in their future since education, which could give them the means to change their social condition, is not as effective as it could be. Also, parents are largely uneducated, though enthusiastic about their children having a future (many volunteer at the centers). So the problems we see in American inner cities are not just American problems; they sound like class and city problems.
What's different than here (but actually similar in some respects) is that the undergrad programs that prepare teachers and the government that certifies them need significant work, plus about 70% of teachers are not even certified by government standards. There is not a single graduate program for principal training, so there is no leadership to recruit, select, and train teachers. Principals tend to be veteran teachers who may or may not have the ability or interest to lead a school, and in some cases the prinicpal might be a leader from another industry (like railway) who has no experience in instruction.
Another issue is facilities. School buildings need a great deal of work and often don't have adequate restrooms. Schools often consist of one or two rooms, and there may be 100 students in a class. Shaheen's organization, which cannot afford better or even separate school facilities, uses schools for free after school lets out (2 to 6pm).
In terms of results, Shaheen's teachers have made great strides comparatively but, like great cultural changers, they are not satisfied because the work is still great. In India, there is primary school (grades 1 to 5), followed by grades 6 to 10, after which you take a major test to determine eligibility for a two year college. Your performance in the two year college decides if you go to the three year college, so kids have a 15 year educational program if they are fortunate. There are teachers in the system who have gone only to grade 5. Only 10% of student make it to grade 10, whereas 65% of students in Shaheen's program attend the two year college. Some have even graduated and returned as teachers in the program, which is really exciting. In addition, other results abound, like the hope children are given for the future, the spirit of volunteerism and service that are instilled in so many of the kids there, and the holistic growth of the students.
In addition to trying to figure out how to recruit and train high quality teachers, Shaheen's group is struggling with how to expand. Whether or not or how much to join govt schools in some way is a question, as well as how to replicate what they are doing without losing the level of quality they have.
Hearing Shaheen share challenges, successes, and the resilience of the Indian children and families was tremendously encouraging, and reminded me of the situation of my African brothers and sisters in their country. I was also deeply saddened and sobered regarding obstacles the poor face everywhere, not just in America. But more than anything, I was emboldened that the work I do here of working to create real futures for urban minority youth through a strong academic and social-emotional foundation is truly needed and a worthwhile goal. It helps to know there are folks doing the same thing in very different cultures.
You can check out Shaheen's organization at akanksha.org. Peace.
Saturday, June 02, 2007
DA T.R.U.T.H. and Friends Live
Just a word about the new Truth DVD (title above). It's off the chain! Just ordered it online this week and watched it yesterday, and it was awesome. It was taped at the last IMPACT Conference, and it features Da T.R.U.T.H. (rappin' w. a live band). Just a wonderful time of hip hop worship!
Guest appearances by Trip Lee, Flame, Ambassador, and CM really round out this dynamic DVD. I was encouraged, too, by the fact that CM has successfully made Bible centered, Christ centric hip hop a staple now, having passed the baton on to Truth, Trip Lee, Flame, and others. Not only that but it's powerful seeing and hearing these godly young men rap about God, putting the Lord on a pedestal, and living lives that testify to God's awesome power and grace!
Only one question: Where are the strong Christian FEMALE emcees?
I have a 19 year old special needs daughter who has multiple challenges (non verbal, developmentally delayed, incontinent, physical anomalies in fingers and hands, and so on). I tell her jokingly a lot what I want her to be when she 'grows up': a Christian female emcee. Now I've taken to telling her that in heaven I want to see her rock the mic for Jesus, and I'll be in the audience nodding my head. :-) I would love to see some daughters of Abraham, so to speak, who can flow with the same skill yet the same biblical soundness as the brothers above....
Guest appearances by Trip Lee, Flame, Ambassador, and CM really round out this dynamic DVD. I was encouraged, too, by the fact that CM has successfully made Bible centered, Christ centric hip hop a staple now, having passed the baton on to Truth, Trip Lee, Flame, and others. Not only that but it's powerful seeing and hearing these godly young men rap about God, putting the Lord on a pedestal, and living lives that testify to God's awesome power and grace!
Only one question: Where are the strong Christian FEMALE emcees?
I have a 19 year old special needs daughter who has multiple challenges (non verbal, developmentally delayed, incontinent, physical anomalies in fingers and hands, and so on). I tell her jokingly a lot what I want her to be when she 'grows up': a Christian female emcee. Now I've taken to telling her that in heaven I want to see her rock the mic for Jesus, and I'll be in the audience nodding my head. :-) I would love to see some daughters of Abraham, so to speak, who can flow with the same skill yet the same biblical soundness as the brothers above....
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Two Is Better Than One
Okay, so I am a certified introvert. Could probably win the Couch Potato Award of the Year. My idea of a lovely Sunday afternoon is coming home from church, sitting on the couch with lunch, and watching a Columbo episode. Better yet, follow that up with a Law and Order marathon.
My sister gave me an official diagnosis years ago when we lived together (we lived together for nine years when I first graduated from college). She told me that when it comes to her, she derives energy from being around people. She is motivated and feels most alive when she is in the company of others. Occasionally she needs a break and will take a respite, 'shutting herself in' as she calls it. But not too much of that, or she will go crazy. I, on the other hand, am the opposite. Being by myself alone with my thoughts energizes me. Being with people drains me. I can take some of it for a while, but then I must go off and fill myself from the well of solitude.
Funny, then, how alive I felt today when I spent time 'collaborating' with my new co worker, an assistant principal who just came on board. We walked through our new building, looking at possibilities, at what can be, in that space to motivate students. We shared ideas about school routines that will build positive culture. And we planned great things for tomorrow's family meeting. Wow! When we share like that, time seems to fly. We even shared tales of sexual discrimination, how at times our leadership is not taken as seriously by people (men), and we have to prove we are not sex objects. (The last topic of conversation resulted from earlier that day when I introduced her to a staff person, who said, "Wow, we have some young meat coming on board." Can you believe that? And this is 2007.) We also discussed potential bumps in the road we see down the line, but resolved to work, together, for our students' good.
The Bible says that 'two are better than one, for they have greater reward for their labor' (somewhere in Ecclesiastes). I believe it was Solomon who noted the warmth that comes from having a thought partner, and the practicality as well (the 'greater reward' mentioned earlier, plus the support when one of you is down).
This week in my quiet times I've been studying the life of Daniel, and I'm reminded today that he had three friends his age (Shad, Mesh, and Abed). I'm sure having their support made it easier for him to stand tall in a culture that was very foreign to him.
As collaborative as I like to think I am, I really do prefer the company of myself (natural bent). But even I, introvert exhibit A, am enriched tremendously when I have a partner in the game.
My sister gave me an official diagnosis years ago when we lived together (we lived together for nine years when I first graduated from college). She told me that when it comes to her, she derives energy from being around people. She is motivated and feels most alive when she is in the company of others. Occasionally she needs a break and will take a respite, 'shutting herself in' as she calls it. But not too much of that, or she will go crazy. I, on the other hand, am the opposite. Being by myself alone with my thoughts energizes me. Being with people drains me. I can take some of it for a while, but then I must go off and fill myself from the well of solitude.
Funny, then, how alive I felt today when I spent time 'collaborating' with my new co worker, an assistant principal who just came on board. We walked through our new building, looking at possibilities, at what can be, in that space to motivate students. We shared ideas about school routines that will build positive culture. And we planned great things for tomorrow's family meeting. Wow! When we share like that, time seems to fly. We even shared tales of sexual discrimination, how at times our leadership is not taken as seriously by people (men), and we have to prove we are not sex objects. (The last topic of conversation resulted from earlier that day when I introduced her to a staff person, who said, "Wow, we have some young meat coming on board." Can you believe that? And this is 2007.) We also discussed potential bumps in the road we see down the line, but resolved to work, together, for our students' good.
The Bible says that 'two are better than one, for they have greater reward for their labor' (somewhere in Ecclesiastes). I believe it was Solomon who noted the warmth that comes from having a thought partner, and the practicality as well (the 'greater reward' mentioned earlier, plus the support when one of you is down).
This week in my quiet times I've been studying the life of Daniel, and I'm reminded today that he had three friends his age (Shad, Mesh, and Abed). I'm sure having their support made it easier for him to stand tall in a culture that was very foreign to him.
As collaborative as I like to think I am, I really do prefer the company of myself (natural bent). But even I, introvert exhibit A, am enriched tremendously when I have a partner in the game.
Monday, May 28, 2007
Good Movie
Okay, so I went away for like a day to get some rest and stuff, and I watched a good movie at this hotel. The name of the movie is "Breach" and it was starring Ryan Philippe (not one of my favorite actors, but he does a pretty decent job in this pic). I forgot the name of the dude who plays Philippe's emissary, but he was good, too, as was the female FBI leader (she's played in tons of stuff, but she's the kinda actress where no one really remembers her name -- only her face).
Anyway, what was interesting was the movie was based on a true story. (After I watched it, I googled the story and listened to an NPR interview with Eric O'Neill, the real FBI wanna be or upstart who took down Robert Hanssen, real life American spy.) It's about this young guy who's interested in becoming an FBI agent, and he's given a tough case that will determine whether he makes it into the agency or not. The test is to take down this spy, who has been an FBI agent for a very long time and who is mad intelligent. As an aside (and this part is true, too) this spy is a sexual deviant who videotapes having sex with his wife and sends it to people w.o her permission. Ironically, he's also a devout Catholic.
Of course, I loved the young upstart trying to prove himself theme, and the proving himself opposite the older, wicked so-called boss was even more interesting to me. So was the rookie's challenge of figuring out if he had what it took to be an agent (some moments of self doubt, combined with struggles over whether or not to trust his superior, resonated w. me, as did his boss's combination flawed personality and vulnerability emotionally). What also tripped me out was that most of this movie was really true. Unlike tons of movies that are loosely based on true stories, this one stuck to the facts mostly (just google Hanssen and O'Neill, and you'll see).
Finally, reading about Hanssen was pretty sad -- hearing how many lives he compromised by selling U.S. secrets. And, hearing that he may have given info that helped bin Laden w. 9/11. Interesting, this world of spies, that is. Makes me wonder what makes a person a traitor. Hmmmm.....
Anyway, what was interesting was the movie was based on a true story. (After I watched it, I googled the story and listened to an NPR interview with Eric O'Neill, the real FBI wanna be or upstart who took down Robert Hanssen, real life American spy.) It's about this young guy who's interested in becoming an FBI agent, and he's given a tough case that will determine whether he makes it into the agency or not. The test is to take down this spy, who has been an FBI agent for a very long time and who is mad intelligent. As an aside (and this part is true, too) this spy is a sexual deviant who videotapes having sex with his wife and sends it to people w.o her permission. Ironically, he's also a devout Catholic.
Of course, I loved the young upstart trying to prove himself theme, and the proving himself opposite the older, wicked so-called boss was even more interesting to me. So was the rookie's challenge of figuring out if he had what it took to be an agent (some moments of self doubt, combined with struggles over whether or not to trust his superior, resonated w. me, as did his boss's combination flawed personality and vulnerability emotionally). What also tripped me out was that most of this movie was really true. Unlike tons of movies that are loosely based on true stories, this one stuck to the facts mostly (just google Hanssen and O'Neill, and you'll see).
Finally, reading about Hanssen was pretty sad -- hearing how many lives he compromised by selling U.S. secrets. And, hearing that he may have given info that helped bin Laden w. 9/11. Interesting, this world of spies, that is. Makes me wonder what makes a person a traitor. Hmmmm.....
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Spades
Hiring staff is like playing spades. You have a limited number of options, and what cards you select depend upon a variety of factors: how strong the suit or number is in relation to other cards, in what order you can play the cards to make the most possible books, and so on. Finding the right folks for your team is pretty complex. It's more than just what hard skills the person has, though that's the minimum requirement. It's also what that person brings to the table outside of those hard skills: coachability, willingness to work as a team player with other staff, heart for students, and other expertise or background. Plus, it's how that person fits into the existing team -- what they might add or detract in terms of diversity, team spirit, stability, etc. And you have to find people who are not just good for kids, but who are good for adults, too, since working with kids is only part of the job. And there's no perfect candidate. You have to balance the candidate's needs with those of others, weighing how much you're really able to invest in them and if they can help you mold others. You also have to have a vision for where you want the school to go long-term, and if that person can help you get there. Man, this stuff is hard!
Sunday, May 13, 2007
Education Funding - Part II
Here are some one-page summaries of the proposed legislation to improve the way public education is funded in IL (proposed by Emil Jones and Gov. Blagojevich).
http://www.ieanea.org/resources/28/Tax%20Fairness%20Plan/Understanding_the_Tax_Fairness_Plan.PDF
and...
http://www.ieanea.org/resources/28/Tax%20Fairness%20Plan/Education%20and%20the%20Tax%20Fairness%20Plan%20faq.pdf
Here's a summary of similar legislation, HB/SB 750, another plan to reform public education funding, this time through increasing income tax and sales tax.
http://www.ctbaonline.org/New_Folder/Education/Fact_Sheet_750_Package_3-2007.pdf
http://64.233.167.104/search?q=cache:7kjXMugJL2gJ:www.workwelfareandfamilies.org/PDF/Fact_Sheet_750_FastFacts.pdf+hb/sb+750&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=4&gl=us
http://www.ieanea.org/resources/28/Tax%20Fairness%20Plan/Understanding_the_Tax_Fairness_Plan.PDF
and...
http://www.ieanea.org/resources/28/Tax%20Fairness%20Plan/Education%20and%20the%20Tax%20Fairness%20Plan%20faq.pdf
Here's a summary of similar legislation, HB/SB 750, another plan to reform public education funding, this time through increasing income tax and sales tax.
http://www.ctbaonline.org/New_Folder/Education/Fact_Sheet_750_Package_3-2007.pdf
http://64.233.167.104/search?q=cache:7kjXMugJL2gJ:www.workwelfareandfamilies.org/PDF/Fact_Sheet_750_FastFacts.pdf+hb/sb+750&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=4&gl=us
Education Funding
With IL legislators deliberating on alternative means of funding public education, I was struck by this recent article in the New York Times Magazine.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/12/education/12middle.html?ex=1179633600&en=b11db2c011747c17&ei=5070&emc=eta1
This article is about an East Coast public middle school that could serve as a model for educating youngsters in this difficult transition period. The school's creative curriculum, along with its intentional approach to social and emotional learning, were interesting.
What was striking, though, was the almost $25,000 per pupil the school has to spend. Because I just finished budget for my school for next year, I couldn't help but note that amount is over three times the amount we spend per pupil in Chicago (almost $7K per pupil for high school, and even less for grades K-8).
I know money is not the only factor in effectively educating students, but it certainly does make a difference. When administrators have to feverishly seek grants (additional funding) to provide
basics (like extra staff to tutor students who struggle severely or an assistant principal when the school is small or a counselor for every grade or a social worker or money for the social-emotional programs this East Coast school has), it is frustrating to see other schools for whom these matters are not an issue. When I talk to principal friends who are more than capable and willing to provide ongoing, quality staff development, but who lack the funding to do so, I almost want to cry because the bottom line is students being shortchanged on their education -- on their future.
I firmly believe students from low-income areas can achieve at the highest levels when certain conditions are set by the adults around them: high expectations, laser-like focus on learning, ongoing use of data, commitment to teacher development, and so on. Doing so requires creativity with use of finances, dogged pursuit of outside resources, and so on. For instance, in order for my school to run as it should, I have three additional streams of revenue outside the city's per pupil spending: two grants and the financial support of our non-profit operator.
However, educating poor students always will be an uphill battle until the issue of funding is settled in this country -- until there is equity in spending per pupil.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/12/education/12middle.html?ex=1179633600&en=b11db2c011747c17&ei=5070&emc=eta1
This article is about an East Coast public middle school that could serve as a model for educating youngsters in this difficult transition period. The school's creative curriculum, along with its intentional approach to social and emotional learning, were interesting.
What was striking, though, was the almost $25,000 per pupil the school has to spend. Because I just finished budget for my school for next year, I couldn't help but note that amount is over three times the amount we spend per pupil in Chicago (almost $7K per pupil for high school, and even less for grades K-8).
I know money is not the only factor in effectively educating students, but it certainly does make a difference. When administrators have to feverishly seek grants (additional funding) to provide
basics (like extra staff to tutor students who struggle severely or an assistant principal when the school is small or a counselor for every grade or a social worker or money for the social-emotional programs this East Coast school has), it is frustrating to see other schools for whom these matters are not an issue. When I talk to principal friends who are more than capable and willing to provide ongoing, quality staff development, but who lack the funding to do so, I almost want to cry because the bottom line is students being shortchanged on their education -- on their future.
I firmly believe students from low-income areas can achieve at the highest levels when certain conditions are set by the adults around them: high expectations, laser-like focus on learning, ongoing use of data, commitment to teacher development, and so on. Doing so requires creativity with use of finances, dogged pursuit of outside resources, and so on. For instance, in order for my school to run as it should, I have three additional streams of revenue outside the city's per pupil spending: two grants and the financial support of our non-profit operator.
However, educating poor students always will be an uphill battle until the issue of funding is settled in this country -- until there is equity in spending per pupil.
Sunday, May 06, 2007
Grandma
I was just thinking about how many good memories I have with my grandma (mother's mom). Grandma Nola, who's 82 years old, is responsible for probably most of the good memories I have from childhood. With the chaotic home we were raised in, going to Grandma and Grandpa's almost every weekend was a welcome respite. Grandma was the one who took time to play with us -- the board game Trouble was a favorite of ours, as was Chinese checkers. Laying in Grandma's big bed, watching Carol Burnett or the Mary Tyler Moore show, was pure heaven to us. So was going downtown to McCrory's or Woolworth's, five and dime stores, every Saturday. My grandmother taught us how to wash and fold clothes and how to clean a house, teaching us lessons within the lessons, like how important it is to do your best the first time around, and it will save you from having to go back and do the job again. As simple as she was, Grandma was affirming with her words more than with her touch. If we didn't reach a goal, she would always tell us that all God asks us to do is our best, and since that satisfies Him, forget everybody else. Grandma never raised her hand to hit us not once -- though her 'shame, shame, shame', her way of expressing extreme disappointment at something we'd done, hurt like blows (wasn't often that we heard those words, though). I think my grandma also helped pass on a love of reading to us as well. Her "True Story" magazine and "Harlequin Romance" novels, not the best literature out there, were always around in huge numbers. Other good times we had were raiding Grandma Nola's jewelry drawer and trying on her costume jewelry. We fell out laughing one time when we ran across her 'falsies'! I really love my Grandma, because she showed a little girl love consistently, and her home was a veritable haven, a port in the storm, growing up the way we did.
Why Conservatives Have a Bad Rep
Check out this op-ed piece by Pat Buchanan, written in response to the V-Tech tragedy.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/uc/20070501/cm_uc_crpbux/op_332611;_ylt=AgYByL15Nro67Qa_20z.tCLq188F
Then, check out this response by author Kathy Kang, called "Resident Alien".
http://morethanservingtea.blogspot.com/
Can anyone see why conservatives have a bad rep?
Though I proudly call myself a conservative, a Christian, and an evangelical, I can understand why some believers shy away from those terms. Buchanan (insensitive conservative Catholic), Newt Gingrich (who felt the VTech tragedy would not have happened if people bore arms), and Pat Robertson (who called for Venezuelan Prez Hugo Chavez' assassination and who said Israeli PM Ariel Sharon's stroke was God's punishment for his Gaza withdrawal) all portray us in a negative light. And it's time we disassociated ourselves firmly from them in order to preserve a biblical, godly image of what it means to be a follower of Christ.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/uc/20070501/cm_uc_crpbux/op_332611;_ylt=AgYByL15Nro67Qa_20z.tCLq188F
Then, check out this response by author Kathy Kang, called "Resident Alien".
http://morethanservingtea.blogspot.com/
Can anyone see why conservatives have a bad rep?
Though I proudly call myself a conservative, a Christian, and an evangelical, I can understand why some believers shy away from those terms. Buchanan (insensitive conservative Catholic), Newt Gingrich (who felt the VTech tragedy would not have happened if people bore arms), and Pat Robertson (who called for Venezuelan Prez Hugo Chavez' assassination and who said Israeli PM Ariel Sharon's stroke was God's punishment for his Gaza withdrawal) all portray us in a negative light. And it's time we disassociated ourselves firmly from them in order to preserve a biblical, godly image of what it means to be a follower of Christ.
Saturday, May 05, 2007
Chris Rock
Okay, so I'm slow when it comes to seeing popular movies. I don't really recommend Chris Rock's "Never Scared". Someone loaned it to me about a month ago, and I haven't been able to make it through the DVD due to the profanity. But....
Chris Rock said something funny about America. After saying repeatedly that America's the greatest country in the world, even for Blacks, he said this:
We Black Americans should be grateful to be here, but we have to be a little leery about being here. America is like that uncle that paid your way through college, but molested you. Pretty deep. Comedy's powerful.
Chris Rock said something funny about America. After saying repeatedly that America's the greatest country in the world, even for Blacks, he said this:
We Black Americans should be grateful to be here, but we have to be a little leery about being here. America is like that uncle that paid your way through college, but molested you. Pretty deep. Comedy's powerful.
Musings on Community Development
Today's BUILD was pretty cool. We visited the Lawndale Christian Health Center, a place I've often passed by but never stopped into. (Sorry for ending a sentence with a preposition.) Bruce Miller, COO and CFO of the center, gave us a talk about how LCHC got started, what it provides for the community, what principles it's based on, and so forth. Really well-done, informative, and open discussion about the opportunities and challenges of the work they do.
Three thinking points surfaced for me today as we sat around the table with Bruce.
The first is a question Bruce posed to us, which is one I wrestle with all the time. The question went something like, In order to change a community, is access to quality healthcare alone the whole solution? Of course not was my response. Though having a solid clinic and pharmacy with caring, competent medical professionals is certainly necessary, it is insufficient. Especially, in light of data Bruce shared about smoking habits (and the effect on children with asthma) and eating/exercise habits (and the diabetes and other conditions that result) in poor neighborhoods. These practices can only be treated -- not eliminated -- by external resources. Bruce used the data to show why LCHC needs Lawndale Church -- why it would be insufficient for the health ministry to function in an isolated way. I agree. But this matter also got me thinking about how (almost) every area of change for a community requires the community members' themselves to change -- be it education, housing (spending/savings habits), or whatever. I know this is a tough thing to think about because we don't want to go to the other extreme of blaming the victim. But I can't help but think how if we don't get this piece of the puzzle right, then we will not have the impact we can in terms of transforming or redeeming individuals, let alone a community.
Second matter. We were posed with the question of how an org. like LCDC / LCHC remains Christian while providing services for which they receive government funds. Orgs like the Y, the Salvation Army, and Christian hospitals, which have clear Christian roots but which are not particularly Christian today, were given as examples. I think this is an interesting question, esp. given how easy it is to be concerned about a cause (like social justice or health care or housing) that how you address that cause becomes a lesser priority (i.e., do we really need Christian workers in our clinic, or do we just need good people?; isn't the main thing to provide a quality service?; who cares, as long as we do it in a 'good' way?). The fact that this Lawndale guy even asked this question was impressive to me, because I think sometimes when trying to be relevant to our culture and to meet its needs, it's all too easy to lose your Christian distinctive. And when that's done, of course you can still provide a service, but it's certainly not the same. Having your doctor treat your illness and pray for you is a double blessing. And there just might be a slippery slope that starts when the distinctive's lost. On the flip side, though, I've been in a situation where the Christianity was heightened and the service provided was mediocre (or sub-par, even). In that case, I found myself wanting the service to be good even at the expense of the Christianity being gone. (ex: Who wants to go to a Christian doctor who's nice but whose medical care is so poor, you're worse off health-wise?) This is an important issue for which there are no easy answers.
Which brings me to the final point. I'm noticing a pattern. Those who embrace relocation to the city -- and who insist that this is the best and perhaps only really effective way to minister in the 'hood -- seem to have a line over which they won't cross. And that line is relocating their own kids into the local schools. I have yet to meet someone who has sent their own kids to the local schools, and I certainly understand the reasons. (And I write this knowing I'd likely do the same thing myself with my own child.) It's interesting, though, to know that there are limits to relocation. There are some points where people hold back. Will people live on the same block? Yes. Will they go to the same church? Yep. Will they use the same clinic? Definitely. Will they send their kids to the same school? Nope. Either they'll homeschool or they'll send their kids to a Christian school in the hood (or to a magnet school/charter outside of the community). I completely understand the reasons why. I don't think I would sacrifice my own child's future or safety myself. But, I think the same logic that's applied to other aspects of community living (you don't have the same level of investment if you're not present) should be applied to public education. I think if it were, we'd see a massive change in the quality of schooling. I guess everyone feels that sacrifice is too great to make, though.
Three thinking points surfaced for me today as we sat around the table with Bruce.
The first is a question Bruce posed to us, which is one I wrestle with all the time. The question went something like, In order to change a community, is access to quality healthcare alone the whole solution? Of course not was my response. Though having a solid clinic and pharmacy with caring, competent medical professionals is certainly necessary, it is insufficient. Especially, in light of data Bruce shared about smoking habits (and the effect on children with asthma) and eating/exercise habits (and the diabetes and other conditions that result) in poor neighborhoods. These practices can only be treated -- not eliminated -- by external resources. Bruce used the data to show why LCHC needs Lawndale Church -- why it would be insufficient for the health ministry to function in an isolated way. I agree. But this matter also got me thinking about how (almost) every area of change for a community requires the community members' themselves to change -- be it education, housing (spending/savings habits), or whatever. I know this is a tough thing to think about because we don't want to go to the other extreme of blaming the victim. But I can't help but think how if we don't get this piece of the puzzle right, then we will not have the impact we can in terms of transforming or redeeming individuals, let alone a community.
Second matter. We were posed with the question of how an org. like LCDC / LCHC remains Christian while providing services for which they receive government funds. Orgs like the Y, the Salvation Army, and Christian hospitals, which have clear Christian roots but which are not particularly Christian today, were given as examples. I think this is an interesting question, esp. given how easy it is to be concerned about a cause (like social justice or health care or housing) that how you address that cause becomes a lesser priority (i.e., do we really need Christian workers in our clinic, or do we just need good people?; isn't the main thing to provide a quality service?; who cares, as long as we do it in a 'good' way?). The fact that this Lawndale guy even asked this question was impressive to me, because I think sometimes when trying to be relevant to our culture and to meet its needs, it's all too easy to lose your Christian distinctive. And when that's done, of course you can still provide a service, but it's certainly not the same. Having your doctor treat your illness and pray for you is a double blessing. And there just might be a slippery slope that starts when the distinctive's lost. On the flip side, though, I've been in a situation where the Christianity was heightened and the service provided was mediocre (or sub-par, even). In that case, I found myself wanting the service to be good even at the expense of the Christianity being gone. (ex: Who wants to go to a Christian doctor who's nice but whose medical care is so poor, you're worse off health-wise?) This is an important issue for which there are no easy answers.
Which brings me to the final point. I'm noticing a pattern. Those who embrace relocation to the city -- and who insist that this is the best and perhaps only really effective way to minister in the 'hood -- seem to have a line over which they won't cross. And that line is relocating their own kids into the local schools. I have yet to meet someone who has sent their own kids to the local schools, and I certainly understand the reasons. (And I write this knowing I'd likely do the same thing myself with my own child.) It's interesting, though, to know that there are limits to relocation. There are some points where people hold back. Will people live on the same block? Yes. Will they go to the same church? Yep. Will they use the same clinic? Definitely. Will they send their kids to the same school? Nope. Either they'll homeschool or they'll send their kids to a Christian school in the hood (or to a magnet school/charter outside of the community). I completely understand the reasons why. I don't think I would sacrifice my own child's future or safety myself. But, I think the same logic that's applied to other aspects of community living (you don't have the same level of investment if you're not present) should be applied to public education. I think if it were, we'd see a massive change in the quality of schooling. I guess everyone feels that sacrifice is too great to make, though.
Thursday, May 03, 2007
More Than Serving Tea
Sukhan Wong. Jeannie Chan-Yee. Yale and Yale Christian Fellowship. Filipino mom in Bahrain. Cindy Yoon. Judson Baptist Church.
These all point to contact I've had with folks of Asian descent. I must admit that my experiences have been very limited (Sukhan was the only Asian person in my almost all Black high school and, though my college and Christian college group had more Asians than Blacks, I did not go out of my way to pursue friendships with folks in this group, even though they seemed more 'real' to me than white Christians). The closest relationship with anyone Asian I've had was with Jeannie Chan, one of my college suitemates, fellow believer and now an adjunct at Fuller, but even that friendship had its limits.
Lately different high profile incidents have thrust the Asian community into the news more, making them the topic of conversation a lot. The VA Tech tragedy, in which a Korean-American went on a killing spree at an American university campus, has everyone talking about the burden racial minorities in this country feel when one of their own commits a crime. Also, a look into the shooter's background revealed a college student full of rage, caused by mental illness but also sparked by a pattern of ridicule and alienation growing up, due to his race. In progressive Christian circles, the Youth Specialties incident, where Christian publishers printed (but later retracted and publicly apologized for!) VBS materials that were racist towards folks of Chinese background, was a topic of conversation not too long ago. In both cases, unfortunate incidents have helped bring to light the reality of being an Asian-American in this country. More Than Serving Tea, an anthology of Asian American women's writing on topics like expectations, relationships, leadership, and faith, continues to give insight on what it's like for Asian-American Christian women, in particular, who live in two cultures and have a triple challenge: being Christian, being Asian-American, and being women.
Though there are obviously differences between my upbringing and experiences as a Black Christian woman, I was surprised at how much of this book resonates with me. It was funny to hear authors write about how Asian-Americans root for entertainers and athletes who are from their background, and how they feel deeply the disappointment and shame when someone who's Asian fails in some way. Blacks do the same thing. It was interesting to hear how certain Asian cultural behaviors (like submissiveness to authority in some-not all-Asian groups) have negative ramifications for the work place. Some African-Americans, raised to respect authority, have to learn to become comfortable with 'pushing back' and expressing dissent (in a positive way), something that whites and others do naturally because of how they were raised. Though not to the same degree, I could identify with the hierarchal family structure (many Black churches still tend to be run by Black men, esp. in the South and Midwest, and many more Black families than white ones are complementarian rather than egalitarian), with the sense of loyalty to community that exists in my culture, too, and with the restraint from showing emotions that has become synonymous with being a 'strong Black woman'.
What's neat about this book is that the authors point out these challenges, but not in a spirit of anger or resentment. They do so in the spirit of Christ: naming what has made their road tough, but then going to God and His Word to help interpret their experiences. So the result is a gratitude to God for the cultures in which they were born (warts and all), a worship of the God who values them as His creation (apart from performance or race/ethnicity or gender), and a wise affirmation of the gifts of their culture yet a sensible pushing aside of anything in their culture that does not affirm their biblical worth and that does not lead them to the peace, love, and joy that Christ brings.
Can you tell I like this book? I think it's a must-read for all folks -- Christian and non-Christian, male and female, Asian or non-Asian. And the authors are: Nikkie A. Toyama and Tracey Gee (editors), Kathy Kang, Christie Heller de Leon, and Asifa Dean (contributors), and Jeanette Yep (consulting editor).
Peace.
These all point to contact I've had with folks of Asian descent. I must admit that my experiences have been very limited (Sukhan was the only Asian person in my almost all Black high school and, though my college and Christian college group had more Asians than Blacks, I did not go out of my way to pursue friendships with folks in this group, even though they seemed more 'real' to me than white Christians). The closest relationship with anyone Asian I've had was with Jeannie Chan, one of my college suitemates, fellow believer and now an adjunct at Fuller, but even that friendship had its limits.
Lately different high profile incidents have thrust the Asian community into the news more, making them the topic of conversation a lot. The VA Tech tragedy, in which a Korean-American went on a killing spree at an American university campus, has everyone talking about the burden racial minorities in this country feel when one of their own commits a crime. Also, a look into the shooter's background revealed a college student full of rage, caused by mental illness but also sparked by a pattern of ridicule and alienation growing up, due to his race. In progressive Christian circles, the Youth Specialties incident, where Christian publishers printed (but later retracted and publicly apologized for!) VBS materials that were racist towards folks of Chinese background, was a topic of conversation not too long ago. In both cases, unfortunate incidents have helped bring to light the reality of being an Asian-American in this country. More Than Serving Tea, an anthology of Asian American women's writing on topics like expectations, relationships, leadership, and faith, continues to give insight on what it's like for Asian-American Christian women, in particular, who live in two cultures and have a triple challenge: being Christian, being Asian-American, and being women.
Though there are obviously differences between my upbringing and experiences as a Black Christian woman, I was surprised at how much of this book resonates with me. It was funny to hear authors write about how Asian-Americans root for entertainers and athletes who are from their background, and how they feel deeply the disappointment and shame when someone who's Asian fails in some way. Blacks do the same thing. It was interesting to hear how certain Asian cultural behaviors (like submissiveness to authority in some-not all-Asian groups) have negative ramifications for the work place. Some African-Americans, raised to respect authority, have to learn to become comfortable with 'pushing back' and expressing dissent (in a positive way), something that whites and others do naturally because of how they were raised. Though not to the same degree, I could identify with the hierarchal family structure (many Black churches still tend to be run by Black men, esp. in the South and Midwest, and many more Black families than white ones are complementarian rather than egalitarian), with the sense of loyalty to community that exists in my culture, too, and with the restraint from showing emotions that has become synonymous with being a 'strong Black woman'.
What's neat about this book is that the authors point out these challenges, but not in a spirit of anger or resentment. They do so in the spirit of Christ: naming what has made their road tough, but then going to God and His Word to help interpret their experiences. So the result is a gratitude to God for the cultures in which they were born (warts and all), a worship of the God who values them as His creation (apart from performance or race/ethnicity or gender), and a wise affirmation of the gifts of their culture yet a sensible pushing aside of anything in their culture that does not affirm their biblical worth and that does not lead them to the peace, love, and joy that Christ brings.
Can you tell I like this book? I think it's a must-read for all folks -- Christian and non-Christian, male and female, Asian or non-Asian. And the authors are: Nikkie A. Toyama and Tracey Gee (editors), Kathy Kang, Christie Heller de Leon, and Asifa Dean (contributors), and Jeanette Yep (consulting editor).
Peace.
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
Good Night
Tonight was a good night. Though I wasn't particularly excited about the evening at first, particularly after a long day's work, I actually did something I haven't done in a long time: had an enjoyable night out.
So my boss, my big boss, offers me some tickets to see the Joffrey Ballet. I recognize the big name, but am not super thrilled. After all, the one and only time I've ever been to a ballet was a fiasco: My sister bought tickets for my mom (Mother's Day), all of us siblings, and her best friend Angie who was in town. We went to NYC, ate a big dinner at fine restaurant, and then went to the Alvin Ailey dance performance. Maybe it was the food, maybe it was the orchestra- like music, but most of us fell asleep, and my sister was pissed. So let's say ballet and I don't have that great a relationship.
What made the evening a little more interesting was a friend's suggestion to take a former middle school student who is a high school junior now and who loves ballet. Great idea, I thought, esp. since it'd give us a chance to catch up. Jennifer was excited, but I still wasn't. I thought the evening would be ultra boring.
From the opening movement, the evening was really a beautiful one. Enthralling, engaging, amazing, funny, lovely -- all describe the dancers and their moves, the lighting, even the music. I actually enjoyed the whole performance. And, of course, Jennifer and I had a chance to find out what's been happening in one another's lives, and that was just as fun, too.
And I made it home by 10:30. What a good night.
So my boss, my big boss, offers me some tickets to see the Joffrey Ballet. I recognize the big name, but am not super thrilled. After all, the one and only time I've ever been to a ballet was a fiasco: My sister bought tickets for my mom (Mother's Day), all of us siblings, and her best friend Angie who was in town. We went to NYC, ate a big dinner at fine restaurant, and then went to the Alvin Ailey dance performance. Maybe it was the food, maybe it was the orchestra- like music, but most of us fell asleep, and my sister was pissed. So let's say ballet and I don't have that great a relationship.
What made the evening a little more interesting was a friend's suggestion to take a former middle school student who is a high school junior now and who loves ballet. Great idea, I thought, esp. since it'd give us a chance to catch up. Jennifer was excited, but I still wasn't. I thought the evening would be ultra boring.
From the opening movement, the evening was really a beautiful one. Enthralling, engaging, amazing, funny, lovely -- all describe the dancers and their moves, the lighting, even the music. I actually enjoyed the whole performance. And, of course, Jennifer and I had a chance to find out what's been happening in one another's lives, and that was just as fun, too.
And I made it home by 10:30. What a good night.
Sunday, April 22, 2007
Irresponsible Parents
Okay, so I've been trippin' lately over the huge responsibility parents have raising their kids and how it is so easy to mess up when it comes to child-rearing. Parents are human, and there's no rule book on parenting that we can follow, so a lot is learned through trial and error. One thing that's needed, though, is a willingness on the part of parents to admit their mistakes and not to act like they are the child (self-centered). Three recent celebrity situations come to mind when I think about this topic.
One is the atrocious voice mail that actor Alec Baldwin left for his 11 year-old daughter recently. What's even sadder is that when I played the clip for a friend, this person did not see anything wrong with Baldwin's ranting. The clip can be heard here:
http://www.tmz.com/2007/04/19/alec-baldwins-threatening-message-to-daughter/
This person said we don't know what the little girl did, and the problem with (white) kids today is that their parents don't discipline them, but let them do what they want. This person (who is Black) then said Baldwin talked to his daughter the way Black parents talk to their children all the time. She's right, but it's still sad. Nothing Baldwin's daughter did warrants her father's degrading, anger-filled comments.
The second is a blog entry by D-Nice, former hip hop artist of the '80s. D-Nice opens up and shares details of the pain caused by his absentee father:
http://www.d-nice.com/journal/archives/000095.php
The last is a reality show called "I Married A Baller" that I stumbled upon this weekend. One of the members of a female R&B group from the '90s married this retired football player named Eddie George, and their family activities are featured in this reality show, kind of like Run's House. Well, Eddie George's father was rarely there for him growing up but this hasn't stopped this football hero from pursuing a relationship with his dad today. He goes out of his way to invite his dad to spend time with his family, even to attend big events like his induction into the Hall of Fame. And all of this despite the fact that his dad is still struggling with drug addiction and is very uncomfortable and 'fidgety' at these gatherings. Part of Eddie George's relationship with his dad is sweet, seeing him play the role of the adult and forgive his father and try to give his father what his father didn't give him. Another part strikes me as enabling, though, and as something that should not have to be.
D-Nice and Eddie George both have made very different choices when it comes to dealing with their irresponsible fathers, and I can't say who's right and who's wrong. All I can do is mourn the fact that there are thousands of others like them -- adults struggling to deal with the wounds of parents who act(ed) more like kids than adults.
One is the atrocious voice mail that actor Alec Baldwin left for his 11 year-old daughter recently. What's even sadder is that when I played the clip for a friend, this person did not see anything wrong with Baldwin's ranting. The clip can be heard here:
http://www.tmz.com/2007/04/19/alec-baldwins-threatening-message-to-daughter/
This person said we don't know what the little girl did, and the problem with (white) kids today is that their parents don't discipline them, but let them do what they want. This person (who is Black) then said Baldwin talked to his daughter the way Black parents talk to their children all the time. She's right, but it's still sad. Nothing Baldwin's daughter did warrants her father's degrading, anger-filled comments.
The second is a blog entry by D-Nice, former hip hop artist of the '80s. D-Nice opens up and shares details of the pain caused by his absentee father:
http://www.d-nice.com/journal/archives/000095.php
The last is a reality show called "I Married A Baller" that I stumbled upon this weekend. One of the members of a female R&B group from the '90s married this retired football player named Eddie George, and their family activities are featured in this reality show, kind of like Run's House. Well, Eddie George's father was rarely there for him growing up but this hasn't stopped this football hero from pursuing a relationship with his dad today. He goes out of his way to invite his dad to spend time with his family, even to attend big events like his induction into the Hall of Fame. And all of this despite the fact that his dad is still struggling with drug addiction and is very uncomfortable and 'fidgety' at these gatherings. Part of Eddie George's relationship with his dad is sweet, seeing him play the role of the adult and forgive his father and try to give his father what his father didn't give him. Another part strikes me as enabling, though, and as something that should not have to be.
D-Nice and Eddie George both have made very different choices when it comes to dealing with their irresponsible fathers, and I can't say who's right and who's wrong. All I can do is mourn the fact that there are thousands of others like them -- adults struggling to deal with the wounds of parents who act(ed) more like kids than adults.
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